I am a lesbian and just started dating this woman 2 and a half month ago. She is showering me with all those words: I love you, I am thinking about you all the time, miss you..bla..bla. She gave me a pair of her house keys already last week. A lot of her friends are her ex girlfriends. There is one of them I don’t trust the one that hit on my girfriend long time ago. I still see that she has something for my present girlfriend even though they broke up long long time ago and become good friends since then. (8-10 years ago). Anyway, here is the picture. I see my girlfriend sometimes on Tuesdays and on the weekends. I work 5 minutes from her house. She starts sometimes @3:00PM or 5:00PM. There was only one time she initiated to see me for lunch. Last week she texted me saying how much she misses me. So I texted her back saying I can go see her for lunch. She said she is having lunch with the “girfriend” I don’t trust, but how about tomorrow. Than last night I texted her and find out today from her that she was having dinner with her. They of course keep contatct with eachother and the other girfriends often by having lunch, text, dinner, etc.. with or without me. There was another time when we had a date and we were supposed to meet first thing in the morning. So she called and said that she is having breakfast with one of the girfriend (not the one I hate) and basically she pushed me back to see me later. Also, she used to text me more and answer me back in a short period of time. Now she text me in the morning and I don’t hear from her until the next day and she text me back within 1-2 hrs. I am suprised if I get a text from her within an hr. When we are together everything is fine and she really seems to be a trustable girl but I don’t know her. Anyways, do I neet to worry about this other girl? Do you think she is playing headgames with me? Do you think she is into me as much as she is saying? I appreciate any input.
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She seems like one of those people who don’t know what they want. Keeping all the ex girlfriends in close proximity just in case something happens. You know, the fall back. It likely has something to do with low self esteem, or trust issues. I doubt she’s cheating on you, but I do bet that if you two were to break up, she’d be back with one of them in a heartbeat. Just my two cents. I see it a lot, unfortunately.
She might not end up hurting you, but the whole situation is going to cause you a lot of grief and a lot of stress in the meantime. Try talking to her about your concerns. Tell her that you are not trying to dictate her life, but that you feel like you should come first sometimes. If she is unwilling to change, then she is probably not worth your time.
Someone once told me to never make someone your priority if to them you are only an option. Pretty good advice, actually.
Chin up
Oh i hate games…it sounds like she likes her life like it is…and wants you for what she wants…and it sounds like you might want different things. Being friends with exs is hard…my now wife had huge issues with my ex and eventually…3 years later…i agreed with her…she over stepped boundries, got involved in our fights, came over too much….etc….when you commit…fine you can put your foot down…now…i’d date others too…just in case!
It is fairly common for lesbians to be close to their ex’s and even have them as best friends so don’t be too threatened by it.
I would say you should try and talk to her about how you feel and just be honest about it. Tell her if you feel she pushes you to the side for her friends. Talk about it.
Also I would say just take it slow as its still the early stages of your relationship. But definitely just be honest because if you bottle it all up it will only make you more paranoid and cause arguments in you relationship.
Headgames! I’d say goodbye to this one before you get any more attached.
do wat ya want!
Oh, I am so sorry for you.
For me, if the ex lovers are still hanging around and hanging on, I am out of there.
Wishing you the best!
2 and a half months and you’re not living together? Wow, you guys are taking it slow.
She needs to focus her attention on YOU and lay off hanging out with the ex’s for a while. If she insists on spending time with them, i think you should be entitled to be there as well. Something seems a little off….
women are wierd creatures my dear. If you get a gut feeling that something ain’t right- then it probably ain’t right!
definately a head game. first of all, its very hard, if not impossible to be okay or date someone who is friends with AN ex, let alone all of them.
if she is spending this much time with her ex’s, then maybe u need to let her go and see what they were missing when they were together. cuz thats bull$h!t!!! key to her house or not, that doesnt sound right.
and the whole texting thing, i know exactly what ur talking about, and thats a good indication that theres things shes not telling u.
u gotta remember, at first, everything is all good, when ppl are interested, ( guys or girls) they will blow up ur fone and tell u what they think u wanna hear, sometimes its true, sometimes its just spitting game.. but theyre actions after time goes by, is what really matters, and this one either found another interest, or her job with trying to impress u is done.
dont waste ur time. ur not in to deep, so get out while u can and let her be with her lil ex gf’s.